Yes! there are unwritten rules guiding a friends with benefits relationship and that is what i’m bringing to you in this post.
OK, i’ll go straight to the point. what does the term “friends-with-benefits” really mean? friends-with-benefits is a term used for two people who have a casual sexual relationship but are not committed to each other in any way, be it emotionally or otherwise.
Them just dey knack with no strings attached.
This is not the same as an open relationship, because in an open relationship, the people involved are committed but can date other people.
Some of you think friends with benefits (FWB) is about a male using a female for benefits, but the truth is that it goes both ways. if a woman enjoys it, then she is not being used. They are using each other for sexual benefits.
REASONS WHY PEOPLE ENGAGE IN FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS
these are some of the reasons why people engage in FWB relationships.
YOU GET TO MAKE YOUR OWN RULES
if you decide to start having sex with your friend or someone with no strings attached, you get to do things your own way, especially if you are a woman. you get to set the days,time and venue or whatever,howeverit pleases you. you can even decide on what to do if feelings start getting involved. so, the rules are up to those creating them.
YOU ARE NOT AFRAID TO EXPLORE
We can all agree that sex with someone thatyou hope to spend the rest of your life with is sometimes hypocritical. with your FWB partner, you dont really care about what they think about your sexual fantasies no matter how weird they are, in fact, you discuss it and experiment on each other in the process.
EMOTIONS ARE NOT INVOLVED
In FWB relationships, you don’t worry about getting hurt or hurting someone’s feelings and you don’thave to worry about it leading to marriage or not. You can also flirt with and date other people without guilt. Sometimes, people who have had a previous heartbreak engage in FWB because they are not afraid of getting hurt again.
YOU SAVE YOUR MONEY
You know in normal dating, people worry about buying flowers, buying gifts, throwing birthday parties for their significant other. In some cases, a partner might depend on the other for funds. This does not happen in friends with benefits relationship as what it entails is basically using each other for sex.
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS RULES
On to the main reason why you are here, there are some unwritten rules guiding friends with benefits . These rules, when broken, could lead to awkward situations. Some of these include ;
NO TEXTS, YOU CAN ONLY SEXT;
The only texts you should be sending to your FWB partner should be “lets meet at your place by 4′ or other naughty kind of texts. Do not involve, “good morning, how was your night” whats that babe? you don’t care remember?
JEALOUSY IS NOT ALLOWED
This one is funny. You can’t ever get jealous when you see your FWB partner with someone else. Infact, when you see him/her with their real partner, you are to pretend you dont know him. yes! because you dont …. like, literally, lol!
DONT START IT WITH AN OLD FRIEND
I dont know about y’all but i think friends with benefits should not be done with someone you have known for a long time. to avoid gbas gbos! ‘cos me i cant try it. it will mess up the whole thing mehn!
Do it someone you met recently, that you havenot really bonded with. that way, you are nit afraid of what they think about you. honestly, its more freaky that way, lol!
NO INTRODUCTION TO INNER CIRCLE
You cant introduce your FWB partner to your friends or family, like why? as as how? but wait! if you want to introduce sef, wetin you wan talk? hahaha! abeg o, use your head.
DO NOT CATCH FEELINGS
I purposely saved this one for last because i know what must have been going through your mind while reading this post. What if i start liking him? mmh mmh! over likeness is not allowed, loving is not allowed, crushing sef is highly prohibted.
The only thing allowed is pure and undiluted lust. Don’t go and start catching feelings o! especially if you are recovering from a heartbreak because they fit break your heart again…. on top the broken one. wetin you go come call am? so, chill and enjoy yourself, don’t catch feelings, its less complicated that way. Unless of course, both of you decide you now want a proper relationship.
So, babes gist me. Have you been in a FWB relationship before? what messed it up? just for fun, guys, please comment below.